New Year's Resolutions that Mean Something

How to Make Them and Keep Them

The idea of making New Year’s Resolutions is really a very optimistic act, especially if we document or share them with others. Like making a grocery list or itinerary of everything we want to find and do. There are plenty of lists out there to tell you what others are doing. But that’s not really what this is about. We’re interested in meaningful change.  

But change is hard for most of us, right?  

And so this annual litany of things we’d like to find and do and be begins. It’s optimistic, but it can feel overwhelming. And when we get overwhelmed, well, that’s why more than half of the people who make New Year’s Resolutions end up abandoning them after six months. Even when we know they’re good for us.

Maybe instead of more resolutions, one on top of the other and all in the interest of self-improvement, we should make better ones. Ones that feel personal.

WHAT MAKES A GOOD RESOLUTION?

What matters most to you? That’s where you should start.

“If you do it out of the sense of self-hate or remorse or a strong passion in that moment, it doesn’t usually last long,” says Dr. Michael Bennett, psychiatrist and author. “But if you build up a process where you’re thinking harder about what’s good for you, you’re changing the structure of your life, you’re bringing people into your life who will reinforce that resolution, then I think you have a fighting chance.”

It also helps to make sure you’re as specific as possible. So instead of saying you want to eat healthier, maybe you focus on adding more protein and fiber to every meal, then identify foods that would fit the bill and work them into your snacking and meals.  

Or if you want to be more positive and grateful, rather than hoping you’ll feel that way each day, set aside 10 minutes each morning to think of two things you’re grateful for and something you want to accomplish. Even better, do this while you’re getting dressed or fixing breakfast, so you create a habit. Or write them down so you can come back to them.

HABITS OVER GOALS

“You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.” You’ve probably heard of James Clear’s bestselling book Atomic Habits, his personal story of turning adversity into an opportunity to grow better incrementally.

A goal is good, but it can feel intangible and vague. A habit is automatic. It becomes part of your process, almost without thinking.

“Simple behaviors that can become habits that automatically help you achieve your goals make better resolutions than grandiose goals,” according to Christine Carter, Senior Fellow at The Greater Good Magazine, dedicated to science-based insights for a meaningful life, and author of The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work and Raising Happiness

So what does this mean exactly?

Work these small, new behaviors into your daily routine. Cue them up by attaching them to something you already do: When I watch my show each day at 2pm, I’ll have a piece of fruit. After church on Sunday, I’ll call a loved one to catch up. When I’m getting ready for bed, I’ll put on relaxing music and do some stretching.

CHECK IN AND REWARD YOURSELF

According to research, it takes an average of about two months (66 days) to form a new habit, sometimes longer. Let’s assume it’s not going to be easy. If it came naturally, you’d already be doing it.

So, tell others about your resolution(s) to engage their support. And reward yourself along the way, even when (especially when) you have setbacks. Think of the way you would talk to and encourage a friend in the same situation.

Take notice of how you feel when you follow through, and when you don’t. You’ll start to see glimmers of change. Enjoy them! Then keep going.

WHERE WILL YOU START?

New Year’s resolutions are a good thing! We are never finished growing and changing, and focusing on things we can do to be healthier and happier is wonderful.

So where will you start?

Here are some common, general resolutions that you can use to get you going. Make them specific, personal and attach them to things in your routine to turn them into habits:

  1. Eat healthier. Be specific. And start with small swaps or changes.
  2. Stay connected to family and friends. Make a list of the people who are most important to you and how and when you will reach out.
  3. Stay active. Start small by adding more steps, stretching at bedtime or taking a class with a friend.
  4. Stay sharp. Do puzzles, play Words with Friends, start a book club.
  5. Get enough rest. Set and stick to a regular bedtime, remove distractions and stay off electronics an hour before bedtime, even schedule in a nap or two.
  6. Get organized. Tackle a drawer a day, have someone help you sort through photos and put them into albums, make a list of important documents, keep them in a safe place and tell someone you trust where to find them.
  7. Keep learning. Take a class or lessons, be curious about others or ask a younger person to do some reverse mentoring (e.g. your grandchild teaches you about technology and you share your travel experiences).
  8. Stay positive. Some days are easier than others. Stay close to good listeners and be one yourself. Keep a gratitude journal or whiteboard. Get some fresh air. Surround yourself with people, food and things you love.

We’re pulling for you!

Happy Holidays and here’s to a happy and healthy 2023! To learn more about the ways we encourage Traditions residents to live life to its fullest, please visit us online at Traditionsmgmt.net and find a community near you.

 

AUTHOR Kristin Cherry, Vice President of Sales and Marketing for Traditions Management Read Kristin's Bio

Why Renting vs. Buying Just Makes Sense When it Comes to Senior Living

There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to senior living decisions. You and your loved ones are unique humans who have your own opinions, needs and preferences. Still, everyone’s situation requires a healthy dose of self-awareness and time to consider their financial, social and health requirements.

That’s why when people come to a Traditions community, one of their first questions is often whether they will rent or own. The second question? How much does it cost and how does it work?

BUY-IN COMMUNITIES

Throughout our lives, we’re taught that building equity is desirable. Ownership affords certain freedoms, especially over time. With buy-in senior living, a resident either buys an apartment, condo or freestanding garden home or villa outright, or transfers their assets to a community’s equity trust. Your residence belongs to you, as do the decisions and financial responsibilities that come with owning.

You will be required to make a substantial up-front investment before you own your residence. Once you do, you pay monthly maintenance fees and association dues, as well as real estate taxes and assessments. Renovations are normally at your expense, as are utilities, and other services such as snow and trash removal.

Some level of care is normally available for an additional cost and that can be paid monthly or come from your pre-paid trust (something to confirm in writing). If your level of care exceeds what is available onsite, you may be required to move or make other in-home care arrangements.

Upon departure or death, a family member or your estate is responsible for monthly fees until your home or condo is resold. Resale pricing and profit will depend on an ever-fluctuating market, but whatever you make belongs to you or your family/estate.

CONTINUING CARE RETIREMENT COMMUNITIES (CCRCs)

Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs)—another buy-in option—are similar in terms of an upfront investment, but require that you qualify for certain financial and medical criteria before moving in. This option includes a substantial entrance fee and ongoing monthly charge that covers your care regardless of how your medical condition or financial situation changes.

Your investment here is for your present and future peace of mind regarding lifelong care, not to build equity. A Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC) covers your full progression of care, but it does not provide you or your family/estate with equity. Some CCRCs will refund a portion of the up-front entrance investment within a specified period of days, or once they sell the apartment, condo or freestanding home.

RENTAL COMMUNITIES

This is a very popular model for senior living communities because it is the least expensive up front and, in most cases, over time. There are also a lot of things that are included in the price of your rental.

Traditions communities are all rental communities, including independent and assisted living, as well as memory care. We believe in this housing model because it gives more seniors access to beautiful and comfortable living, amenities and present or future care options.

Rental communities work the same way most rental companies work, with a small refundable deposit and a monthly fee for rent. Residents are required to give notice (normally 30 days) before terminating their lease. Leases are normally renewed annually, but terms and pricing should be discussed.

Overall, rentals often give you more for your money, with villas and freestanding garden homes including attached garages, gated security, options to paint and choose some design features, home maintenance, yard work, snow and trash removal, utilities and full access to dining, amenities, social activities and events and transportation.

Assisted living and memory care rentals include three restaurant meals per day, all utilities, weekly housekeeping, weekly laundry service for bed linens and towels, 24-hour onsite caregivers, emergency response systems, onsite social, religious, recreational and wellness programs and activities and scheduled transportation to medical appointments and outings and events.

Rentals do have some restrictions on the type of large-scale changes you can make to your residence, and the ones you would be financially responsible for, but there is normally a good deal of flexibility on improvements.

Rentals normally have a continuum of care available to residents, which means they offer independent living, assisted living and memory care within one community. This arrangement often allows you to stay in the same villa, garden home or apartment if you can safely receive new levels of care in place. It also offers you the chance to receive care and assistance from people you know and trust.

We want every senior to find the living option that best meets his or her needs. To find a Traditions rental community near you, learn more about available options, floor plans and pricing and to schedule a tour, please visit us at Traditionsmgmt.net.

 

AUTHOR Kristin Cherry, Vice President of Sales and Marketing for Traditions Management Read Kristin's Bio

PLAN. ENJOY. RELAX.

REMOVE those WINTER BLUES with a move to Traditions!

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Winter Home Visit

Nothing soothes the body and soul like yummy soup and hot chocolate on a cold winter day. Our Traditions sister communities recently had a great time making home visits and delivering Traditions Thermoses filled with our Chefs' delicious homemade soup and mugs to our future residents!

Traditions of Deerfield even made a special delivery to Firehouse #41!

Holiday Travels? Need a Respite Stay for Your Loved One?

A respite stay is the break that everyone, both caregivers and loved ones, receive from their everyday lives. Respite offers shorter stays so the loved one can experience our services and amenities while the caregivers take a much-needed break!

With the same caring staff and luxurious accommodations, our respite stays are a fun break for everyone involved. All the while, creating a sense of confidence, great memories, and new friends!

Contact Jennifer Gibbs for more information or to schedule your private appointment and secure an upcoming retreat!

SCHEDULE A TOUR TODAY!
JENNIFER GIBBS
Area Sales Director
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(317) 741-8349

HOLIDAY TRAVELS? NEED A RESPITE STAY FOR YOUR LOVED ONE?

Giving Thanks Can Make You Healthier and Happier

10 Ways To Practice Gratitude

WHY IS IT SO GOOD FOR YOU?

The field of research around gratitude is fairly young. Yet researchers have found that the act of being grateful and giving thanks can make us more likely to adopt other healthy habits. It can also make us more resilient to anxiety and stress, stimulate our immune system, stave off disease, help us stay connected, sleep better and heal faster…all things that make us happier.

In short, gratitude is good for you.  

10 WAYS TO PRACTICE GRATITUDE

So how do we turn gratitude into a practice? How do we make it a healthy habit that makes our lives richer and happier on a regular basis?

Researchers think it’s a combination of many things that determines how naturally grateful we are, like our culture, religious or spiritual practices, parenting, personality, even gender. But the fact remains, no matter how naturally it comes, we can all cultivate gratitude.

  1. Say Thank You. We take a lot for granted, don’t we? But think of the way it makes you feel when someone takes the time to thank you.

    We all want to feel special and appreciated for our contributions, and saying thank you is a meaningful way to let people know how important they are to you. You’ll even find that this small act of kindness often comes back to you.
     
  2. Begin or End Each Day with Gratitude. Whether it comes in the form of prayer, counting your blessings, journaling or meditation, take a few minutes each day to remember why you’re here and who and what you’re most grateful for. This attitude of gratitude can set the tone for the day and night ahead.

    In fact, researchers from the University of Manchester found that people with positive thoughts, the ones who focus on their blessings or things they are thankful for before bed, slept longer and reported feeling more rested.
     
  3. Count to Five. In behavioral psychology, there is a method of dealing with anxiety or negative thoughts called The 5 Senses Grounding Technique or the 54321 Technique.

    The premise is that when you feel worry or stress, you interrupt negative physical and emotional feelings by focusing on your surroundings. Stop, take a breath and notice:
     
    • 5 things you can see (your hands, your wedding ring, a favorite piece of art, a tree, a handmade quilt)
    • 4 things you can physically feel (your feet on the ground, the lotion on your hands, your breath and the cool air from the window)
    • 3 things you can hear (friends laughing, the TV, birds singing)
    • 2 things you can smell (breakfast and laundry detergent)
    • 1 thing you can taste (minty toothpaste)

By stopping and focusing on the here and now, you are essentially slowing down enough to appreciate the simple things.

  1. Make a Point of Adding Joy. A call with your best friend always lifts you up. So does bread pudding, dogs and a good hair day. Take time to intentionally schedule these things into your week, even if you need to enlist the help of others. Especially then.
     
  2. Be Generous. We’re not talking about giving away all of your money, although philanthropy for a cause you hold dear is the kind of generosity we are talking about here. Empathy for others helps us appreciate our own situations and to feel like we have something to contribute.

    Be generous with your praise, your smiles, your time, talents, resources and interest in others. This generosity breeds trust and helps you connect with people.
     
  3. Learn About Others’ Stories and Struggles. Being curious has always been a ‘pro-social’ behavior that endears us to others. It also keeps our brains active and young.

    Being interested in others is an act of generosity. And when you find out more about the people and places around you, you discover things you have in common, fascinating facts and your relationship becomes more meaningful. It follows that when these people become more important to us, we feel grateful for them.
     
  4. Stop Complaining. The negativity is toxic, and it changes your brain and perspective. It can also make it difficult to think constructively and problem solve. When we look for the positive in situations, that optimism opens doors and gives us options.
     
  5. Get Some Fresh Air or A Change of Scenery. Sometimes we are so mired in our negative thoughts that it’s tough to snap out of it. Changing your physical perspective is a good step toward changing your mental one.

    So take a walk or a drive, go into another part of the house or get out for a while. Even seeing a tree, flowers or plants, not to mention a walk outside, has been proven to promote optimism, lower blood pressure and stress and speed healing.
     
  6. Visualize the Best Outcome. Visualization is like putting psychological distance between you and your decision, problem or situation. The conscious mind can really only focus on one thing at a time.

    But the unconscious mind can work wonders. Look at how many epiphanies and ideas you’ve had in the shower or as you’re mindlessly loading the dishwasher.

    So visualize your decision or problems as colors, words, even people. Then visualize moving them into one corner of a room, turning, leaving and closing the door. Then visualize walking toward something positive. See the best possible outcome and play that out in your head. Think about how that makes you feel.

    Sometimes even sitting on a problem and giving it time can help you step out of the details and into the bigger picture. This clarity can help you take action and feel empowered, happier, even stimulate the immune system and fight disease.
     
  7. Seek Out Good Company. A good mood can be like a yawn, very contagious. Seek out people who are positive, who bring out the best in you and others and who are as good at listening as they are talking.

    These relationships are built on trust, generosity and love, things that endear us to each other and make our lives fuller and richer.

We wish you a healthy and happy Thanksgiving, and hope that you find and celebrate reasons to give thanks every day. To learn more about the ways we encourage Traditions residents and each other to live gratefully, please visit us online at Traditionsmgmt.net and find a community near you.

 

AUTHOR Kristin Cherry, Vice President of Sales and Marketing for Traditions Management Read Kristin's Bio

Respite Stays at Traditions

A respite stay is the break that everyone, both caregivers and loved ones, receive from their everyday lives. Respite offers shorter stays so the loved one can experience our services and amenities while the caregivers take a much-needed break! With the same caring staff and luxurious accommodations, our respite stays are a fun break for everyone involved. All the while, creating a new sense of confidence, great memories, and new friends! 

Contact Mark Sharp to schedule your private appointment and secure an upcoming retreat!

MARK SHARP
MarkSharp@Traditionsmgmt.net
(513) 583.5170

Bethesda North Hospital Recognizes Traditions of Deerfield

Traditions of Deerfield's Sewing Club completed our second donation drop-off of baby quilts to our local hospital, Bethesda North Hospital in Cincinnati, Ohio. We were invited to attend Bethesda North’s Safety Meeting on Wednesday, September 21, to present our Sewing Club's beautiful, hand-crafted quilts.

Bethesda North’s Safety Meeting was attended by 80 people from their management team, including their President and CEO. Our Sewing Club was recognized in this meeting along our club President, June C.

Each blanket is lovingly laundered, folded, and wrapped with a gift tag that explains its origin and includes words of encouragement for the newborn babies, and their families, who are admitted into the NICU at Tri-Health Hospitals. Each incubator is covered with a quilt to block the bright lights of the NICU unit. Once the baby is ready to go home, the quilt is embroidered with the baby’s name and birthday.

When we practice our Core Values, a culture of genuine loving care comes naturally.

National Assisted Living Week

Traditions of Deerfield is excited to share our Joyful Moments and create new ones together during National Assisted Living Week, September 11-17, and we hope the community will join us during this special time.

Contact Mary Jordan at maryjordan@traditionsmgmt.net or (513) 583-5170 for more information.

See below for our calendar of events and for our Family Bingo Night on Thursday, September 15th at 6:30pm!

National Assisted Living Week

Family Bingo Night

September Assisted Living Calendar

Check out the many activities for our Assisted Living residents for the month of September.

Click on the image below for a downloadable or printable version.

September Assisted Living Calendar